Thursday, August 19, 2010
Today Is, "Straight From Your Gay Best Friend" Advice Day....
I need your help. I am a 40-year old woman involved with a 47-year old man for the last nine months. He says that he is legally separated, but we never discuss his wife or a divorce. He tells me that he loves me, but I’m not sure about that.
I lost my job, and my car broke down. My 15-year old daughter and I stay with my mother while I get back on my feet. I am also dealing with some health issues. I told him about my situation but he has offered no help on anything. He always asks me what my daughter’s dad is doing to help out. He travels a lot for his job, so we mostly communicate by email and IM’s, or he calls every 4-6 weeks. I can call his work voicemail and leave him a message. I really do love him, but I wonder if I am wasting my time?
I send him cards to his P.O. Box, gifts, etc., but I get little in return. He bought me a blouse, card, and nightie for my birthday, and he sent me a copy of the book he wrote for Valentine’s Day. I got him a really nice Christmas gift and he didn’t even send me a card, which really hurt my feelings. He accused me of cheating and didn’t talk to me for forty-five days. He wanted me to have him a son, but I had to have emergency surgery and can no longer bear children. He says that having a son is his dream. I really don’t know what to do right now. Is he really planning on being with me? He tells me that I need to find a man here whenever I say that I need help on something. – Do I Wait On Him?
You can read my response, HERE!