TERRANCE DEAN: Check Out This Piece I Wrote For Huffington Post...

Friday, November 19, 2010

Check Out This Piece I Wrote For Huffington Post...

Greetings Everyone!

I wanted to share with you all a piece I wrote for the Huffington Post on self-love.

I've joined with fellow author, Nora Ephron, who has created a link/tab on Huffington Post called DIVORCE.

Make sure to check out the piece, share the link with your friends, and please leave comments on the site.

Here is part of the piece I wrote:

OPEN YOUR HEART

Remember when you first fell in love with him -- your ex-husband? He made your heart go pitter-patter. The sight of him made you swoon. You would say and do silly things. You couldn't wait to see him and once he was around you couldn't wait to touch him, hold him, and wrap your arms around him with all your might. Yes, those were the days when you were happily married.

Now you're divorced. The love you thought would last forever is now a love lost. Your heart is broken. You now know what it is to experience the pain of someone leaving you, someone taking you for granted, or someone being emotionally unavailable. You're afraid to date because you fear another unhappy ending. You've grown tired and hopeless convincing yourself that Mr. Right is not going to show up, and quite frankly the pickings are getting slim.

Well, Ms. Diva, I am here to tell you that it's time to let go of that sad song and rhetoric. It doesn't serve you or empower you. Oh, trust me, I've heard many single, and divorced women say things like, "I am never going to find a good man." Or, "I am not going to let my guard down because someone will take advantage of me." And, the best line of all, "Men can't be trusted."

In order for you to move on, start anew, and fresh, honey, you've got to start with loving yourself, and that requires an open heart. No more putting yourself down. No more hating your ex because of what he didn't do, or did to you. Let it go, and let him go! You deserve greatness. You deserve to be your fabulous self, and you certainly deserve the ability to start anew, and trust me, there is an abundant amount of love available for you. Yes, girl, there is!

You can read the rest of the piece, HERE: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/terrance-dean/open-your-heart_b_778454.html

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REVIEWS FOR "STRAIGHT FROM YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND"...

AOL Black Voices: “Dean doles out sage and sassy advice for women on some of life's most challenging issues, including when to leave a relationship, how to stay in the dating game and how to realize that you may not be that into him. 'Straight From Your Gay Best Friend' is a must read for any woman looking for a different perspective on love, life and spirituality.”

Sister2Sister Magazine: “Terrance Dean is distributing sound advice for women searching for themselves in Straight From Your Gay Best Friend. But like any good GBF he wants to help as many people as possible, and his book is the next best thing to a private session over cocktails. Trust us, the book (and the wisdom inside) is well worth the money.”

Huffington Post: “I do, however, appreciate most of Dean's simple, down-to-earth nuggets of wisdom, often delivered with a bit of spirituality. It is this type of straight-ahead, common sense advice that reflects the book's best moments.”

REVIEWS FOR "HIDING IN HIP HOP"....

Newsweek: "In a new memoir, a former MTV staffer dishes on the rap industry's persistent "down-low" culture. He doesn't name names, but it's a fascinating peek inside hip-hop's last taboo."

New York Magazine: "After all those shirtless rappers with their antigay lyrics, not to mention the ambiguous ones for R. Kelly’s “Trapped in the Closet,” someone has written the inevitable gay-hip-hop exposé."

VIBE Magazine: "Though Dean does not name names, he has found the strength to be his true self and reveal his own struggles as a down low man in the entertainment industry."

The Observer UK: "If homophobic rappers are looking for a dubious sense of 'authenticity', then they can just as easily find it in Dean's background as in the most masculine of gangsta rappers."

Essence Magazine: "...his descriptive, page-turning exposé about his closeted same-sex romances with Hollywood and Hip-Hop's leading Black men will be a rude awakening for many and healing for others."

GBM News: "His story is more than who's living life in or out of the closet...you will marvel at his accomplishments and will agree that he is an asset not just to the gay black community but to mankind, as there's nothing stronger than the human-spirit."

NOW Magazine Toronto: "Terrance Dean pours his soul out as he details the dimensions of African-American and -Canadian gay male oppression. Many will relate to his inner turmoil, and particularly the way family and church fail to offer safe havens. Dean laments that the world is not yet ready to face the truth about black gay/lesbian celebrities’ sexuality. With this book, however, he definitely sparks the much-needed conversation about gays inside the hip-hop nation."

AOL Black Voices: "Dean raises an important question regarding acceptance of homosexuality in the black community. And in Hiding in Hip Hop, he provides some context for his life by discussing his tumultuous upbringing."

The Michigan Front Page: "This book was a real page turner that stimulated the thirst for a deeper understanding of the plight that many homosexual individuals deal with in living with their sexuality that is often shrouded in a world of secrecy."