Monday, November 8, 2010
My Guest Blog Over At LitFest Magazine...
Be Still and Wait – Patience Is A Virtue
By Terrance Dean
Chapter Excerpt from my new book:
Straight From Your Gay Best Friend – The Straight Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having A Fabulous Life (Agate/Bolden Books – October2010; $15)
Anything worth having is worth waiting for. When you are looking for something for your home or your yard or your wardrobe, you take your time and shop around. You don’t jump on the first thing you see. You browse, look, and then go home and think it over.
The same rule applies when you are looking to date. You have to be still and wait.
If you have doubts or concerns about a particular man, just be still and wait. He will reveal his true colors in time.
Pull up a chair beside me, Diva-cakes. Let me pour you a drink. How about a Strawberry Storm, it’s better than a Blue Monday.
Now, I have the belief that if you listen carefully to someone when you meet them, they will tell you all you will ever need to know about them in fifteen minutes. It doesn’t take three, six, or twelve months to discover something about someone that they made perfectly clear when you first met them.
It pains me when I hear some women say after things go wrong, “I didn’t know he could be like that.” Or, “I thought he was different.” Girl, most likely he told you who he was when you first met him. If you had been paying attention, you would have heard and seen all the signs.
Let me say it again. Ladies, when people tell you who they are, believe them. When they tell you that they are crazy, then, guess what? They are crazy. When they tell you they are obnoxious, then, guess what? They are obnoxious.
It’s like what your mother always told you: If it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck, and talks like a duck? Then guess what? It’s a duck.
I remember when I was at a house party some years back. I met this guy, and he and I flirted heavily with one another. It was playful and fun. I introduced myself and told him my name. I then asked him for his. He replied saying, “Drama.” Seriously, I am not lying. That is how he introduced himself.
I politely shook his hand and said, “Thanks, but no thanks. I am not looking for any.”
He stood there with a look of shock on his face as I turned and walked away. I guess he assumed I was joking, but I was not. I was serious. Within those few minutes he told me who he was. I believed him and went on my merry way.
Finish reading the rest of the excerpt, HERE: