Dear Gay Best Friend,
I need your help. I think I may already know the answer, but here is my situation.
I have been involved with a man for the past five years. Within those years there have been nothing but lies, excuses, and being stood up. He would call me and ask me if I wanted to catch a movie or grab something to eat. He would then give me a time as to when he would pick me up. That time would come and he wouldn’t show up. I would call and he would tell me, “I’m right around the corner.” Ten minutes would go by and he still would not show up. No call or text to say he can’t make it.
Two years ago he moved his childrens’ mother into the house his mom left him after she died. (He has his own place.) She was supposed to be helping with the responsibilities in taking care of their children. However, his son is now 21 and his daughter is 16, and every time we speak he is the one doing everything for his daughter, like taking her to the mall, taking her to the hairdresser, picking her up from work, etc. My question is what is the point of having the mother around if he is doing all the things himself and some she should be doing with her mother?
I just can’t take it anymore. I will be 50 in a few years and I don’t want to have regrets of wasted time. I have been very open and honest and have tried to discuss my concerns with him. He always seems to blow me off. Another problem I have with him is he never has time for me except ‘booty call time’ between 11-11:30 pm and, that’s maybe once or twice a month. We don’t go anywhere together, and I have never met anyone in his family. There is more, but I’m sure you can see where I am coming from. I am ready to move on with my life and let go, but he doesn’t. – Over It And Him
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